Thursday, July 29, 2004

MEN ARE NEVER WRONG! (sometimes we just don't know where we are)

It's hard for people to admit when they are wrong.  Especially for men.

That's because we're never wrong.

We're not always right, but that's not the same as being wrong, which is a whole 'nother issue.

Take for example, the whole issue of stopping to ask for directions.  When a man has to stop and ask for directions, he is admiting defeat.  He is admitting that he was wrong.  That he's not up to the challenge of getting to where he wants to go. 

What man in his right mind stops and asks for directions?  A girly-man?  Yeah.  Real men don't need to.  Why?  Because we're not lost.  Now granted, sometimes we don't exactly know where we are, but that's not the same as being lost.

It's a fine line, but one that speaks volumes to the differences between men and women.

For hundreds of thousands of years, men have been (ahem) "encouraged" to be confident and decisive in their actions.  But more than that, it's a competition to see who can be the most confident, the most decisive one around.  Winners get to pass on their genes.

Well... what does it mean to be confident and decisive?

Confidence is the surety of ones action in the face of uncertainty.  In other words, you may not feel confident, but if your actions are confident then you are confident.  You may not be exactly right in your decision/action, but if you act as though you are right, then most of the time it doesn't matter if you were right in the first place.

So, for men, if we're want'n some lov'n, we have to act like we know what we're doing even when we don't have a clue.  Cause that's what you women want... that's what makes you feel safe.  In a harsh environment, confident action can sometimes mean the difference between life and death.  Hmmm... that sabertooth tiger looks pretty hungry... do I form a committee with the other men in the tribe where we can debate the best course of action for our organization, or do I grab the nearest brand of fire and fight like hell.

If Joe Erectus is out hunting Bison for the wife and kiddies, he's not going to stop and ask for directions at the neighboring village, is he?  Of course not, they're just as likely to filet him for supper as they are to have him for supper.  Stopping for directions=Bad, figuring it out on your own=good.

Custer made the mistake of asking for directions a Little Big Horn, and look where it got him.  Did Patton stop and ask the French which way to Berlin?  Are you kidding me?

You may think it's not a big deal to stop for directions/read the instruction manual/admit when we are wrong, but the truth is, everytime we do so, we lose a little bit of what makes us a man.

We become girly-men.

We may not always be right, but we're never wrong....



At July 29, 2004 at 6:43 PM, Blogger mona said...

now how do you 'splain the love of hardcore porn and sitting around all day in boxer shorts?

wait, that's me.

(thanks for the heads up on the autistic woman. really cool.)

At July 30, 2004 at 6:06 AM, Blogger Esther said...

I don't know how to break this news to you, but it is no longer necessary to hunt bison or kill tigers. Times have changed and there's a few new "mating rituals". How about going for this "asking for directions is a sign of your incredible confidence in yourself as a true man"? ... naw, didn't think it would work ;)

At August 2, 2004 at 2:22 PM, Blogger Murphy said...

always wrong but never in doubt.

but for real i could give a shit who's right and wrong. unless you are one or both of my lovely sisters, then i would prefer YOU be wrong and ME to be right.

At August 3, 2004 at 1:27 PM, Blogger tan247 said...

I like your perspective. Keep being honest with yourself, it's less stressful.

At October 14, 2005 at 3:22 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Help me Dude, I'm lost.

I was searching for Elvis and somehow ended up in your blog, but you know I'm sure I saw Elvis in the supermarket yesterday.

No honest really, he was right there in front of me, next to the steaks singing "Love me Tender".

He said to me (his lip was only slightly curled) "Boy, you need to get yourself a shiny, new plasmatv to go with that blue suede sofa of yours.

But Elvis said I, In the Ghetto nobody has a plasma tv .

Dude I'm All Shook Up said Elvis. I think I'll have me another cheeseburger then I'm gonna go home and ask Michael Jackson to come round and watch that waaaay cool surfing scene in Apocalypse Now on my new plasma tv .

And then he just walked out of the supermarket singing. . .

"You give me love and consolation,
You give me strength to carry on "

Strange day or what? :-)

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